I want to say something to all the white people who want to "know what PoC go through without bothering them." If you're curious and want to know what we go through... don't befriend us for that reason. Befriend someone because you like them. You don't get to make friends with us to sate your curiousity and you don't get to use our life experiences to "know what PoC go through." Just like you, we're all DIFFERENT so you're never going to know every single thing a PoC goes through due to racial
oppression from one “PoC friend.” We’re not here fore your scientific observation so quit trying to figure out how to approach us as if you’re approaching a lion. With that said, honestly, there are plenty of people talking about their experiences on tumblr and there are books written, and none of those resources need you to insert yourself into the picture at all in order to see a PoC perspective. If you get close to someone get close to them BECAUSE YOU LIKE THEM not because they’re PoC.
I’ve had plenty a white boyfriend/friend wanting to get close to me for my skin and not for me and those relationships all ended terribly, and my biggest fear is that they use their past experiences with me to convince themselves they are more knowledgeable and inclusive.
This this this this THISSSS! Thank you for adding this, pedazitosfightsback.
The weird thing about beards to me is like, how many guys are super proud of their breads but gag when a lady has the nerve to not sport a landing strip?
I read “breads” and giggled because my first thought was of big buff bearded men looking super proud of their variety of freshly baked loaves omg
But no, true story. If somebody gotta get rug burn to the face whenever you kiss them, then you need to suck it up and take that rug burn to the face when you are going down on her.
(omg i’m so sorry, i’m ridiculously in need of sleep but can’t drag my ass off tumblr but you bring up a SUPER valid point, and i thank you)
If I was dating you, I would be terrified.
is actually the only correct answer
If I was dating you... sorry, I can't do this. You won't respect me afterwards. lol
Personally, I believe black people oppress themselves. Just as women let themselves be dehumanized as sex objects. Now you can tell no one what words they can and cannot use. If a white man wants to use the term nigga/nigger so be it. By you telling anyone that they cannot use a word because of their race then you are racist yourself and should silence yourself.
Oh really. Is it my choice when cops decide to stop me because to them my skin color makes me suspicious? Is it me oppressing myself when shop keepers follow me because my skin color makes them think I’m a thief? Is it me oppressing myself because white people established and maintain the stereotypes that other people reinforce against me?
I totally forgot that’s my fault.
I totally forgot that saying white people shouldn’t use slurs that they STILL use to dehumanize us is me being racist and oppressing them.
Go away. You’ve got to be the most ignorant cracker ever. I don’t have time for stupid cunts. I hope all the awful things happen to your ignorant ass.
My white boyfriend and his black friends call each other nigga as a term of endearment. Is this acceptable? I don't think it is but I can't explain it well or find articles stating it in this context.
That’s definitely not okay. (And from what I can tell, you aren’t Black either, so you shouldn’t be saying it without censor either.)
First things first, because he might try the “nigga and nigger aren’t the same, it’s not like I’m using slurs—” No, fuck that, he’s using a slur. “Nigga” is a variation of “nigger.” It’s a variation of a slur.
Now. people using “nigga” is fine. Because that is a word that has historically been used to dehumanize us. It is still used to dehumanize us. It is fine to try and reclaim a slur that has been used against you and your group in an effort to systematically oppress you.
He is white. He has never been systematically oppressed using that slur. That slur was never used to justify who his death is okay, why someone who assaulted him should get off scott free, why he shouldn’t get a job, why he shouldn’t live in a certain area, why he deserves to die, why he deserves to be raped, why he’s not smart, etc. Nobody has ever used “nigga” or “nigger” to dehumanize him and make all sorts of wrongs seem okay so long as they were happening to him, because “He’s just a nigger.”
And if he wants to try that whole “Nigger doesn’t mean black, it means stupid ignorant person!” bullshit, I dare him to try and tell you or me or anyone that when somebody says the word nigger he doesn’t immediately see a Black person in his mind. Because that’s what the word is associated with. That’s what that word was used for. IT was used as a slur against us. It is STILL used as a slur against us.
I don’t care if his Black friends call him that. They have a right to use that word. Just because his friends use it doesn’t mean he has any right to it, even if they use it around him. Just because they think it’s acceptable doesn’t mean that it is, nor does it mean every Black person will. I’m willing to bet that some of those black friends who call him “nigga” aren’t 100% comfortable with him calling them “nigga” back, but just don’t want to say anything because they know they’ll be shut down, dismissed, or viewed as overly sensitive. Even if they are okay with it, like I said, it doesn’t make it okay. It is STILL a slur when coming from the mouths of white people and any other group who isn’t Black.
And if he tries that whole “words have as much power as yo give them,” it’s bullshit. I’m sure if somebody condescended to him, he’d be angry. I’m sure if his family insulted him, he’d be hurt or upset. So why shouldn’t him using slurs be upsetting, especially when those words have been used to dehumanize us, and people still use those words as a shorthand reminder that they don’t think we’re humans worthy of having our autonomy or humanity respected, that we don’t deserve the rights everyone else has, and that we will be treated differently because of our skin color? Should we NOT be upset by that?
Lastly, if he sits there and defends his usage to say it, I don’t care what his argument is, I don’t care what his logic is, at the end of the day, he is still fighting for his right to use a slur as freely as he wants to. And I would question why that is so important to him.
the thong-pocket was probably meant to hold a bullet vibe..
THAT IS GENIUS
ETA: I DID NOT NEED TO KNOW THAT ABOUT THE THONG THAT MY MOTHER PICKED OUT FOR ME OMG *sobs*
But still, that is genius!
There is a broad generalization of a lot of different ethnic groups and if any white person said anything about that they would be considered horrible people and racist. All I'm saying is practice what you preach and think about some of the shit you say before you go and say it, because I'm not even white and I'm offended for the side of my family that is.
It’s not necessarily a two way road, though, seeing as one group has institutional power and benefits from the oppression of the other. So.
Feel free to be offended for them. I’m not offended for my white family members, but you gotta do you. But your white family members will be fine, I assure you.
Also how did they fit a pocket on a thong?
There was an itty bitty teeny tiny pocket on the front triangle vagina cover part.
I would call it something less awkward, but I’m not really sure what to call it.
The pubis mond protector?
Idk, I don’t know proper thong anatomy u_u But the pocket was there. XD
Your mother sounds amazing.
Thank you! She IS amazing, I love her so so so very much :D