oppression from one “PoC friend.” We’re not here fore your scientific observation so quit trying to figure out how to approach us as if you’re approaching a lion. With that said, honestly, there are plenty of people talking about their experiences on tumblr and there are books written, and none of those resources need you to insert yourself into the picture at all in order to see a PoC perspective. If you get close to someone get close to them BECAUSE YOU LIKE THEM not because they’re PoC.

I’ve had plenty a white boyfriend/friend wanting to get close to me for my skin and not for me and those relationships all ended terribly, and my biggest fear is that they use their past experiences with me to convince themselves they are more knowledgeable and inclusive.

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This this this this THISSSS! Thank you for adding this, pedazitosfightsback.

I read “breads” and giggled because my first thought was of big buff bearded men looking super proud of their variety of freshly baked loaves omg

But no, true story. If somebody gotta get rug burn to the face whenever you kiss them, then you need to suck it up and take that rug burn to the face when you are going down on her.

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(omg i’m so sorry, i’m ridiculously in need of sleep but can’t drag my ass off tumblr but you bring up a SUPER valid point, and i thank you)

This

is actually the only correct answer

Ohhhhhhhh suh-nap!

Oh really. Is it my choice when cops decide to stop me because to them my skin color makes me suspicious? Is it me oppressing myself when shop keepers follow me because my skin color makes them think I’m a thief? Is it me oppressing myself because white people established and maintain the stereotypes that other people reinforce against me?

I totally forgot that’s my fault.

I totally forgot that saying white people shouldn’t use slurs that they STILL use to dehumanize us is me being racist and oppressing them.

Go away. You’ve got to be the most ignorant cracker ever. I don’t have time for stupid cunts. I hope all the awful things happen to your ignorant ass.

That’s definitely not okay. (And from what I can tell, you aren’t Black either, so you shouldn’t be saying it without censor either.)

First things first, because he might try the “nigga and nigger aren’t the same, it’s not like I’m using slurs—” No, fuck that, he’s using a slur. “Nigga” is a variation of “nigger.” It’s a variation of a slur.

Now. people using “nigga” is fine. Because that is a word that has historically been used to dehumanize us. It is still used to dehumanize us. It is fine to try and reclaim a slur that has been used against you and your group in an effort to systematically oppress you.

He is white. He has never been systematically oppressed using that slur. That slur was never used to justify who his death is okay, why someone who assaulted him should get off scott free, why he shouldn’t get a job, why he shouldn’t live in a certain area, why he deserves to die, why he deserves to be raped, why he’s not smart, etc. Nobody has ever used “nigga” or “nigger” to dehumanize him and make all sorts of wrongs seem okay so long as they were happening to him, because “He’s just a nigger.”

And if he wants to try that whole “Nigger doesn’t mean black, it means stupid ignorant person!” bullshit, I dare him to try and tell you or me or anyone that when somebody says the word nigger he doesn’t immediately see a Black person in his mind. Because that’s what the word is associated with. That’s what that word was used for. IT was used as a slur against us. It is STILL used as a slur against us.

I don’t care if his Black friends call him that. They have a right to use that word. Just because his friends use it doesn’t mean he has any right to it, even if they use it around him. Just because they think it’s acceptable doesn’t mean that it is, nor does it mean every Black person will. I’m willing to bet that some of those black friends who call him “nigga” aren’t 100% comfortable with him calling them “nigga” back, but just don’t want to say anything because they know they’ll be shut down, dismissed, or viewed as overly sensitive. Even if they are okay with it, like I said, it doesn’t make it okay. It is STILL a slur when coming from the mouths of white people and any other group who isn’t Black.

And if he tries that whole “words have as much power as yo give them,” it’s bullshit. I’m sure if somebody condescended to him, he’d be angry. I’m sure if his family insulted him, he’d be hurt or upset. So why shouldn’t him using slurs be upsetting, especially when those words have been used to dehumanize us, and people still use those words as a shorthand reminder that they don’t think we’re humans worthy of having our autonomy or humanity respected, that we don’t deserve the rights everyone else has, and that we will be treated differently because of our skin color? Should we NOT be upset by that?

Lastly, if he sits there and defends his usage to say it, I don’t care what his argument is, I don’t care what his logic is, at the end of the day, he is still fighting for his right to use a slur as freely as he wants to. And I would question why that is so important to him.

THAT IS GENIUS

ETA: I DID NOT NEED TO KNOW THAT ABOUT THE THONG THAT MY MOTHER PICKED OUT FOR ME OMG *sobs*

But still, that is genius!

It’s not necessarily a two way road, though, seeing as one group has institutional power and benefits from the oppression of the other. So.

I mean.

Feel free to be offended for them. I’m not offended for my white family members, but you gotta do you. But your white family members will be fine, I assure you.

Bye~

There was an itty bitty teeny tiny pocket on the front triangle vagina cover part.

I would call it something less awkward, but I’m not really sure what to call it.

The pubis mond protector?

Triangle shield?

Idk, I don’t know proper thong anatomy u_u But the pocket was there. XD

Thank you! She IS amazing, I love her so so so very much :D